If you haven’t yet read the sublime Becoming, then seriously what are you doing with your life?
Becoming is a rich and intimate portrait of Michelle Obama’s life so far in her own words. Beautifully written, compelling and very candid, the memoir is as entertaining as it is inspiring and is delivered with much grace.
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โNow I think itโs one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a childโWhat do you want to be when you grow up? As if growing up is finite. As if at some point you become something and thatโs the end.โ
โFailure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. Itโs vulnerability that breeds with self-doubt and then is escalated, often deliberately by fear.โ
โIf thereโs one thing Iโve learned in life, itโs the power of using your voice. I tried my best to speak the truth and shed light on the stories of people who are often brushed aside.โ
โAm I good enough? Yes, in fact I am.โ
โFor me, becoming isnโt about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self. The journey doesnโt end.โ
โIf you donโt get out there and define yourself, youโll be quickly and inaccurately defined by others.โ
โFor every door thatโs been opened to me, Iโve tried to open my door to others. And here is what I have to say, finally: Letโs invite one another in. Maybe then we can begin to fear less, to make fewer wrong assumptions, to let go of the biases and stereotypes that unnecessarily divide us. Maybe we can better embrace the ways we are the same. Itโs not about being perfect. Itโs not about where you get yourself in the end. Thereโs power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And thereโs grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become.โ
โDo we settle for the world as it is, or do we work for the world as it should be?โ
โFriendships between women, as any woman will tell you, are built of a thousand small kindnessesโฆ swapped back and forth and over again.โ
โSince childhood, Iโd believed it was important to speak out against bullies while also not stooping to their level. And to be clear, we were now up against a bully, a man who among other things demeaned minorities and expressed contempt for prisoners of war, challenging the dignity of our country with practically his every utterance. I wanted Americans to understand that words matterโthat the hateful language they heard coming from their TVs did not reflect the true spirit of our country and that we could vote against it. It was dignity I wanted to make an appeal forโthe idea that as a nation we might hold on to the core thing that had sustained my family, going back generations. Dignity had always gotten us through. It was a choice, and not always the easy one, but the people I respected most in life made it again and again, every single day. There was a motto Barack and I tried to live by, and I offered it that night from the stage: When they go low, we go high.โ
Becoming by Michelle Obama is available in all good books stores
